What should you do in minutes when you feel uncomfortable and edgy, but you’re not quite certain why or what to do about it? In this report, you’ll learn a simple technique to get to the heart of what you are feeling and discover the message in it, so that you can take action to move ahead.
Do you want to take something to make the feeling go away? Do you divert yourself by focusing on something else? Do you analyze it until you think of a story which makes sense?
These are all natural inclinations that can have value. These approaches may alleviate or take your mind off of symptoms in the short run. Yet they may also perpetuate the recurrence of this exact same feeling over and over. Identifying with the stories we tell about our adventures can make them stick and repeat. We tend to believe our stories and tell them over and over, so our life replays at a self-fulfilling loop.
So, what can you do in such uncomfortable moments that would change things, direct you ahead, and start something new? Here’s a simple technique Named Accessing Your Mental Centerline.
The moment you notice yourself feeling edgy and uncomfortable, instead of leaping into analyzing it and finding a story to describe it, see if you can just sit with the feeling, be present with it, and get under it.
1. Insert a mental pause, let go of thinking, and focus on the sensations along your Emotional Centerline: out of the neck, through the middle of your chest, into your lower abdomen. Placing your palms together in prayer posture, as in the picture above, can help you tune into this centerline. Focusing on sensations along your Emotional Centerline quiets the believing mind and enables you to access your emotions without the baggage of intense storylines.
Inquire into the particular sensations in this region of your body. Is it tight, compressed, blocked, hard, hot, cold, numb, pierced, deflated, sinking, raw, empty, tingly, fluttering, rising…?
2. To put it differently, see if it’s possible to take the senses completely, unconditionally, and non-judgmentally. See if you can get familiar with the felt sensation without telling a story about it or being consumed by it.
3. See if you can tag the exact feeling the sensation represents. You’ll feel a”yes” when you have the right label. Is it anger, sadness, fear, anxiety, joy, enthusiasm,…?
4. Once you’ve identified the emotion you are feeling, ask what it is prompting you to do. Focus into the feeling along your Emotional Centerline and address your question here. Notice what comes into your consciousness. It could be a nonverbal knowing, particular words, a picture, a song, or an inspiration to do, say, or feel something… Just notice what arises, stay with it, and let it grow in clarity.
If nothing arises in this moment, see if you’re able to keep an awareness of your Emotional Centerline as you go about your day. Notice what you know as you do that.
As you practice these four steps again and again, you will discover you can catch yourself before you get too deeply entrenched in embarrassing, edgy feelings or overly-identified with your typical stories about what they mean. You’ll discover there is a deeper guidance below the surface of your emotions. Emotional intelligence cuts through mental chatter and speaks to the essence of what you will need to do in this moment. Occasionally this wisdom is vastly different from the tales your mind is in the habit of telling.